Forty Something and Getting Healthy http://fortysomethingandgettinghealthy.blogspot.com/
Forty Something and Getting Healthy http://fortysomethingandgettinghealthy.blogspot.com/
I never really believed it when my mother used to tell me, “Sheri, your actions always speak louder than your words.” Even into my 20’s and 30’s and I became a wife and mom I could always find ways to not listen to this sage advice. It was not until I hit my late 30’s that I took this phrase to heart, especially in regard to relationships.
If someone really cares for you, they will show you. Sure it is nice to hear them express their feelings, but really most friendships are not based on words of love and caring. These close relationships show that the person cares.
It can be a harsh reality when you tune into the actions of a friend or loved one and realize that they are showing that they do not care about you at all. You may deny it, or excuse it, but when your heart and mind are both ready to face the facts you will finally accept the truth. You then have a choice to make. What do you do about this particular relationship?
The post I re-blogged yesterday had a great comment that I want to paraphrase;
It is up to each of us to decide how much real-estate we permit each relationship takes up in our lives. If you view yourself as a prime piece of real-estate and reflect on how your particular piece of land is being rented how happy are you with the current arrangements? IF you are not completely happy you have every right and indeed should make changes!
Maybe that relationship that is currently sitting in one of your prime beach-front locations needs to be emotionally relocated to the back of your land, even if it is just for now until you are really able to invest the time and energy into repairing or evicting that tenant.
You are worth only the best of the best when it comes to your real-estate tenants. Don’t sell yourself short and allow squatters to poach on your emotional land. One relationship at a time, take stalk and clean house. You will feel more positive and better about yourself when you do this; it is VERY empowering!
Love yourself and fill your real-estate with prime quality tenants.
Very much worth the read!
I get a high volume of email on a daily basis. Generally I’ll only post the negative ones on this blog. There’s two reasons for that: 1) They’re usually much more entertaining. 2) What kind of a pretentious loser would I be if I published my own fan mail? This particular email breaks the mold a little bit. I received it a couple of days ago and responded. I’m now (with the permission of the kid who sent it) posting the email and my response, because I think a lot of people might be able to relate to the subject matter. Bullying has been in the news quite a bit recently, and my response to “Alex” could just as well apply to most kids who have experienced similar abuse.
I changed his name and took out a phrase or two in order to protect his anonymity:
Dear Mr. Walsh,
View original post 1,259 more words
Happy Thanksgiving to all my Canadian readers! Today is a National holiday and a time to reflect on all the people and circumstances in our lives for which we are thankful. Our family has a special reason to celebrate today. This morning at 1am our Grandma passed away. Grandma was almost 101 years old.
As an in-law I have a unique perspective on how this incredible lady has influenced three generations of our family. A few nights ago I sat down and wrote about a few life lessons Grandma taught me over the past ten years. I have a hard time expressing how this amazing woman has passed on her spirit to the females in our family. Here is Grandma as I knew her;
Grandma Balfour’s life is a not only to be remembered and celebrated, but a life to aspire to duplicate. I only had the honour of knowing this remarkable woman for the past 10 years; but in that time she has taught me many very valuable lessons. In her own, quiet way, these are the life lessons that Velva Balfour has taught me;
I think the most important lesson that Grandma Balfour has taught me is that I am so incredibly lucky to be part of her legacy; her family. This kind, selfless, loving, gentle, soft-spoken woman led this family by example. She has taught each female in this family how to be a most amazing, woman, daughter, sister, cousin, aunt, and mother. I listen to so many stories from others in this family and I don’t know if they realize just how much of who they are comes directly from Grandma. Mom is so kind, and welcoming, caring, and will do anything to support her family. She puts her family first before herself; all just like her own Mom. She encourages, and uplifts us and reminds us that “Everything is going to be alright” when we are going through something difficult; just like Grandma. Mom is also always reminding us of how much she loves us, with hugs and words; just like her Mom.
I see Grandma’s grand-daughters; always there to help in any way they can in any situation. They are caretakers to their families, just as Grandma was for Mom and Uncle Larry when they were young. They too constantly express their feelings to loved ones. Their children will never, ever, wonder about their mother’s unconditional love for them; just as Grandma always expressed her unconditional love to them. They have gentle, loving hearts like their Grandma. I really don’t think they realize just how much Grandma Balfour has helped to shape who they are. I see her in each one of them and I see her in Mom too. If Grandma was able to (and I know she will be when she is in Heaven) see what I see, she would be so incredibly proud of not only her daughter, but her grand-daughters as well. From one incredibly amazing woman, has come, generations of caring, loving, women, who will continue to foster her loving traits into their children. I already see this in Grandma’s great-grandchildren.
I guess Grandma Balfour has taught me that because of who she was, the world, especially my world, is a much better place. I will aspire to live the rest of my life more like her; full of love for everyone, without judgement, just love.
You are right Grandma; everything is going to be alright. Thanks to you.
This morning, nice and early, I woke to rain. Since this was the day od the Run For a Cure 5K for breast cancer my spirits fell. I did not mind walking in the rain myself but my little ones were planning on coming with me. Soon after I heard my 5 year old telling her little sister that this was the big day! So full of excitement, I dreaded telling them they were staying home.
When he time came to let them they were upset but very quickly said that they still wanted to go and help. I was so proud of my Chicklets! Rain did not dampen their desire to be part of something that was going to help others……..a lesson we could all learn!
As it turned out, it did not rain hard and we all really enjoyed the walk. I was proud to see how many local educators were participating. I was also deeply moved by the now 26 year old who spoke of her three year journey which included 13 surgeries. I was saddened to see just how young many of the survivors were up on the stage. The courage of these women shone in their faces and my heart was touched by the atmosphere of kinship between survivors and those of us who were there to support the cause.
The day was a great success and I have already signed up for next year. I am so glad to have helped my friend and all the others across Canada fighting to irradicate breast cancer. It was the best way I can think of to spend three hours on a Sunday morning!
Tomorrow morning my two younger Chicklets and I will be taking part in the CIBC Run for the Cure; a 5K which raises money to find a cure for breast cancer. I know stats state that almost everyone now a days has been touched by a female in their lives who has been affected by breast cancer. Until two years ago my life had never been touched.
That is when I first met a fellow teacher and friend. I had no idea; even when she went off work for surgery soon after I started teaching at the school and when she returned a few short weeks later I had no idea the life altering ordeal she had been going through. You see, this lady is so full of life, and so passionate about teaching and her students that one would never guess that cancer attacked her body.
When she quite “matter of factly” told me, well I was completely blown away. I have, many times borrowed some of her personal strength when facing my stresses and issues in life. I am not pretending that she has not gone through hell and back dealing with breast cancer; nor am I trying to glorify it. Her strength has been a source of support for me. If she can stay so positive in her life how can I allow something so little as my own stresses beat me down?! The answer is I can’t.
Tomorrow I am walking on her team during the 5K and I and everyone else whose lives have been touched by knowing this strong, incredible woman are Blessed.
Thank-you my friend!